Mga Igsoon kong mga Maanyag,

God knows what our situations are. He also knows each individual's longing. Getting a husband is a noble longing. It is not something to be ashamed of. Jean and I frequently are discussing about single ladies. Don't you believe that at one time I can not help but cry for friends who are at their stage in life are still single and no one, someone intimate walking with them whenever they are going out. I know that it is a very real longing of each ladies.

Over the years as Jean and I are trying to process the "Whys...of a single ladies", these are the things that transpired:

1. A lot of the ladies became victims of waiting for Mr.
Right rather than discerning on "He is good for me..".
I am not sure if our meaning for Mr. Right is okay.."How
right?... How does he looks like? How does he moves?
The man "who is good for for me,..." is just enough for
me. There is no Mr. Right. Everything is known when you
are staying the same house, the same room everyday.

2. Setting too high a standard does not work all the time.
This is one thing we need to correct or rectified. When
I was a new Christian, I always heard a "must"
requirement. He must be a BS leader, he must have a
strong leadership capability. He must be sanguin,...and
the list of requirements, goes on an on. I dont think
this are wrong, but what I am saying is when we consider
thingslike these, we need to know that these are already
endangered species even before. Had my wife listed these
mentioned qualities, poor me, I can not have a Christian
woman. Praise God that my wife's requirement was so
simple and ordinary: " To have a Christian husband..."
I think I have a much higher requirement than her. I
desire to marry a Christian woman who fears God,
memorized the TMS and is willing to go cultural
mission(that's why until now we are still on the local
shore,..hehehehe). The drawback of my prayer.., she is
always checking me if I am still reviewing my TMS...
When he was asked "Why Bobot...", She said: "There is
something in him that only me can see..."That even me I
do not know. When I was a new believer (and perhaps
until now), my face looks like that of a
drunkard...hehe!

3. Are you enjoying your life? This one we read from an
author of a book in my shelf. The author said that if
you are not enjoying your life, it can be seen by people
around you. You do not know that both ladies and guys
are "shopping" around whom to marry. The author said
that if the gentleman happens to see that you are not
enjoying each day in your own life, he would not dare to
join you otherwise, his life will become gloomy too.
I think we can try thinking about the truthfulness of
this theory by looking at evidence displayed. Try to
realize if indeed the wives of your nav kuyas are really
happy women: Judy versoza, Celsa Bongo, Edd
Tadulan(Nakaduha na na si bay Edd),Glo Saguit, and others.

4. RG is right when he mentioned about being beautiful. Being Beautiful is being you at your best both inside and outside. The hunt for beauty is one thing that is not changed on a guy's perspective when he became christian. To be spiritual is an advantage but that will not excuse ladies not to be on their best daily. The guys of the world is seeking for beauty the same as the christian guys. Be BEAUTIFUL everyday.

So, while Mr. Enough has not arrived yet, what do we need to do? There are two things:
1. Be Happy and enjoy life. Life is beautiful and worth
enjoying. Be with friends, dont stay inside your
shell. Tell the world that you are happy and willing
to be a friend.

2. Stay Beautiful. Even if the wait is long to come for
Mr. Enough, God is worthy to see your beauty each
day. God wants to see you beautiful because it is one
sign that you enjor the gift that He gave to you.
We will discuss more about this during the alumni conference of which Jean and I are assigned for this topic.

Bobot