the "hunted" becomes the "haunted"

Hahaha ....the "hunted" becomes the "haunted"...Nice one Bing...and you got me going.

Now, since Im killing time at the office, let me handle this subject in light banter with the reader's indulgence. This is really for singles....and the doubles as well. CAVEAT: Please dont take me seriously.

Ladies...aggression or whatever term connoting initiation by a woman is treading on fine line. Its a high wire, balancing act. But I agree, like you said, there are many dignified ways that a woman can assert her beauty or charm without necessarily appearing "aggressive". (The best diplomats by the way are women, not men, for they have perfected the art of meaning something without saying anything. )

Let me try to imagine what these are, and correct me if Im wrong.

Use of non-verbal communication to catch someone's attention is one. How?

For example, a nice SMS message ( and please spare him the bad spelling. A woman who cant spell is repulsive. Duh! ), a nice book ( cartoons will do. Who knows he might like Batman), a nice smile ( picture perfect close up smile).

Ah, try this one...ice cream and cake. From experience ( at the risk of souding "experienced") I would venture this: sometimes, nah, often times the way to a man's heart is through his stomach. .

A woman who can cook gourmet and whatnot should find a way to let the man of her affection have a taste or sampling of her cooking but without flaunting it. Hellooooo....For those who can't cook other than boiling eggs, ice cream and cake can be bought at the nearest mall or convenience store noh..

Women ought to realize that men like beasts can be tamed. Food tames the lion in a man. There is psychology involved here besides realizing that food is also bait to the hunter. The message that comes across is that "you know how to take care of me". When the man's stomach becomes full he begins to think ( necessarily in that sequence, for a man can never think when he is famished. ).......he sees the food ( or whatever is left of it, crumbs? ) , then he sees the woman behind the food. Bingo...your man graps the point, a flash of brilliance ( it takes time but he will get there) : she cooks like mama mia............ Ladies, never forget that men have varying degrees of dependence with mama. We are mama's boys till the day we die. Catch the man at his weakest - food.

What else? Hmmm....

Besides food, the other manly interest I could think of is sports. If he isn't hooked to one maybe he is a nerd whose idea of leasure is reading Einstein's theory of relativity or proving that E is equal to MC squared. To death, he will bore you with equations.

Sports is a man's world that women must dare to invade if only to catch his attention. You dont need to be a basketball player to be able to talk basketball, although it helps greatly. At least have basic info or know how to get into sensible discussion of sports personalities to begin with and how to keep score. Know that Roger Federrer ( tennis great) is not the owner of Federal Express or that Lewis Hamilton ( formula one racer) has nothing to do with George Hamilton. Check team loyalties too. If he is a Lakers fan, then you must be for the Lakers. You cant be Boston Celtics or he will be on the warpath.

The other tip I can give is this: men love to talk about WARs from the books and movies they'd read/seen ( not from those they'd waged unless they are war veterans). They will bore you to death talking about how King Leonidas and 299 other Spartans ( hey they were called the 300 Spartans) defended Greece in the Battle of Thermopylae against a vastly superior Persian force. Or how Patton rolled across Europe with the US Third Army to capture Berlin. ( Hahaha. Sounds like me). I know ladies cant stand the idea of war ( or the sounds of it that come out of tv) but ask for an extra doze of grace to pretend to be interested. Ngeek! Listen to his war stories to get a connection. Mao ni ang punto sa guera-guera.

Food, Sports, War...its a picture of a hunter's life. That should tell you something about men.

Cheers // Buboy

p.s. its one of those rare lazy days