Foremost....

To all single ladies:

I have been reading the exchanges on the concerns of the single ladies, and indeed it fascinates me that the ones who gave their thoughts are the guys!!! Kudos to Bobot and RG. Though Mabel and Ruby shared their thoughts too. If you don’t mind, I’d like to share my own thoughts.

Foremost....

• Discern whether it is God’s will for you to remain single or be married. Whichever it is, it definitely is the best status for you. In the process of discernment, you need to review the events that had happened in your life. Nothing ever happens by coincidence - your family background, career, friends, organizations, talents, abilities, etc. Look around you but at the same time look inside yourself. God knows us best and of course he understands us best too. Thus, it pays to listen and obey. If “accidents” happened, God can always re-route us into His direction, only the route becomes longer. (The wait becomes longer too.)

Then....

• Lift-up your desire to God, because I believe even our desires come from the Lord. If you desire marriage, and it is not happening yet, perhaps you are not in the right place at the right time. This alone takes a lot of obedience and surrendering of our will to God. What if God wanted you to go to a certain place and you did not go? What if God wanted you to be in a group and you are hesitant to be in it? What if there are still other priorities God wants you to do? What if there are several “things” in us that needs refinement? There are so many what if’s? Only you can discern this for yourself. God’s time is always the right and perfect just be patient.

But don't forget.....

• Have the right perspective. It is not for us to meet Mr. Right, but rather the perspective should be….”Am I right for Mr. Somebody?” We cannot embark into a relationship if we are not WHOLE. It does not mean to say that we are already perfect – because we can never be. What it means is that we know ourselves; we are able to control our weaknesses; we know our limitations, and what we can give into the relationship; most importantly we do not seek perfection from Mr Somebody, because that Mr Somebody will grow with us into becoming the person God destined him to be - just as we also grow into the woman God destined us to be.

Above all....

• Remember II Corinthians 6:14…“Do not be mismatched with unbelievers. For what partnership is there between righteousness and lawlessness? Or what fellowship is there between light and darkness?” Let God be your matchmaker and of course if He is then be guided according to God’s standards.

NOTE:

I married at the age of twenty-eight, but I had the same feelings and longings during my early twenties. I too asked myself … “Where are the guy’s?” But had I not surrendered my will to God, and followed Him, perhaps I will still be single until now. He he he. Hope this sharing will help.